Sunday, September 30, 2007

Doughnut, anyone?

My mom went to Serendra yeserday and bought me some doughnuts...Krispy Kreme! I like them 'coz they're not that sweet unlike Go Nuts. I went in our kitchen to get some coffee too. Hmmm, feels so good specially it's raining so hard outside due to Storm Hanna. My coffee is just the perfect partner for my doughnut.

I got 6 Krispy Kreme:
1 Caramel Kreme Crunch
2 New York Cheesecake
1 Chocolate Iced Kreme Filled
1 Original Glazed
1 Ateneo Blue Eagle (yes, they have it!)

Saturday, September 29, 2007

5 Ways to Get Into a Man's Head

How many times have you wondered, "What is this guy thinking!" If you want to get into a man's heart, you have to start by getting into his head. The problem is many men have a hard time being open about their thoughts and feelings.
Armed with the following five techniques, a man will feel more comfortable opening up to you, so you can develop better communication with him and, ultimately, enjoy a better relationship.

1. Let him know you care about what he is saying. A man won't open up to you unless he knows you care. One of the best ways to convey this to him is through your body language. To show your interest, unfold your arms, lean into him and allow your eyes to meet his in a natural way. Let him know that you get what he is saying with a nod of the head or a raise of your brow.
Also, try "mirroring," which means that you absorb his body movement and convey it back to him. So if he looks stressed telling a story, you look stressed as well. It's like saying, "I feel what you are feeling. I'm putting myself in your shoes."

2. Be nonjudgmental. No man is going to let you into his real thoughts if he senses he is going to be criticized or put down. Leave out comments like "How could you do something like that?" or "That's not something I would do."Give him the freedom to express himself openly and honestly. Give him the freedom to express himself openly and honestly without judgment and you'll be surprised at all that comes out. You don't have to condone or agree with everything he says. You're simply creating an environment where he has the freedom to say it.

3. Don't use the word "why." When psychotherapists are in training, they are often taught to erase the word "why" from their vocabulary, because "why" questions frequently sound negative and critical. When you ask a man, "Why did you do it that way?" it can come across as "Are you stupid, why on earth would you choose to do it that way?" Now he's on the defensive before you even finish the sentence. Practice using substitutes such as "Tell me more about it" instead of "Why did you do it?"

4. Never say, "We need to talk." Nothing makes a man want to talk less than hearing "We need to talk." It conveys the message that he's done something wrong, he's in trouble for it, and you are going to let him have it. He will shut down before the conversation starts. The best way to bring up an important topic is to ease into it. Choose a time when you are both doing a small task together such as light cleaning or cooking, which takes the harsh focus away from "the talk" and will make him more comfortable. Remember not to approach him while he is involved in something important to him like Monday night football. (Heare are some other ideas about dealing with a football fan.)

5. Learn how to really listen. Chances are you always listen to him but you don't always hear him. How many times have you had something else on your mind as he is talking to you? Or maybe you are thinking about what you're going to say next instead of paying full attention.
It's important to stay in the "hear" and now with him, rather than letting your own thoughts or the outside world intrude. A man can sense when you really want to hear what he has to say -- true listening is the best way to get him talking true to you.

Lazy Sunday

So it's Sunday, now what? Been lazy for the past few days, I even didn't go to work...well, i made some excuses to my manager for me not to go to work last night. The truth is, it's because of the weather. It's raining so hard and all i want to do is to sleep and hug my pillows...until now, that's what i want to do. Good thing, my mom went to the market with my dad and bought some breakfast. Maybe I'll eat first then watch TV then be a "couch potato" all day. LOL. Sometimes it's good to be lazy all day, just a break after a stresfull job in a call center.

Promise, i'll go to work tonight....or not!

First time

This is my first time to blog ever...well, maybe on my Friendster account i tried but i just posted some of my favorite songs there. LOL. Maybe because i really don't know where to start. But nowadays, everytime i see my friends on their Friendster account, they have this blog site...hmm, out of my curiosity, i clicked their link....Wow, not bad. It's like a journal of their everyday life that they want to share with the public. So now, here i am. Starting up my own blog. Hope you enjoy whatever i post in here...